You Don’t Have to Be a Superdad, Superdev, or Superhuman

You're doing fine. Now drink some water and maybe commit that code.

Look, it’s June.
Which means Father’s Day is around the corner, and so is Men’s Mental Health Month, and you’re probably still behind on sprint tickets, code reviews, or that one weird defect you swore wasn’t reproducible until someone demoed it on a screen share.

Let’s talk about it.

🧠 First of all, Men’s Mental Health Is Not Optional

If you're a guy (or anyone, for that matter) in tech, dev, QA, BSA, IT, support, or “whatever title means you get blamed when things go wrong”, then this is your yearly reminder that you are not a robot.

You can’t just sudo apt-get install “emotional resilience.”
You can't set up a cron job to process your childhood trauma every night at 2am.
And no, powering through with coffee and sarcastic Slack emojis doesn’t count as therapy (trust me, I’ve tried).

Mental health matters. Even for the guy who everyone assumes has it together because he’s good at YAML.

🧔 Father’s Day Is Cool, But Also Kinda Weird

Let’s be honest: Father’s Day in tech often looks like this:

Your kids give you a mug that says “#1 Debugger”

You smile and say “thanks,” while quietly wondering if you’re doing any of this right

You fire up your editor because something in production “smells weird”

And that’s okay.

Being a dad, or any kind of caregiver or mentor, doesn’t mean being perfect. It means showing up. Trying. Failing. Trying again.
You don't need to be a "Superdad." Just being present is already more heroic than half the management chain.

🦸‍♂️ I Love Superman, But I Know I’m Not Him

Here’s the thing:
I love Superman.
I wear Superman shirts. I’ve got Superman hats. I even have Superman tattoos.
I try to be Superman, at least on the outside.

The strong one. The dependable one. The one who doesn’t flinch, doesn’t break, doesn’t show weakness.

But I’m not made of steel.
I’m a guy with a heartbeat, a family, a codebase, and a tendency to bottle things up until I either explode or write a blog post like this.

Superman may be a symbol of hope, but hope doesn’t mean perfection.
It means persistence.
And if Superman can take a punch and still get back up, so can I.
Even if sometimes I have to do it while muttering curse words in the shower or silently stress-refreshing Jira.

😶‍🌫️ You Don’t Have to Be Everything to Everyone

Newsflash:
You are allowed to be tired.
You are allowed to not know the answer.
You are allowed to not be “on” 24/7.

In tech, we like to optimize, automate, and "fix" things. But some days, you just need to exist.
Ship what you can. Log the rest.
Then close your laptop and go outside for five damn minutes.

🛠️ Improvement > Perfection

The goal isn’t to be perfect.
The goal is to be a little better than yesterday, or at least not worse than last week.

That might mean:

Refactoring that one hideous function

Actually drinking water before 3pm

Asking for help (gasp)

Admitting you're burnt out (double gasp)

Or simply not yelling “WHAT THE HELL” at your monitor out loud today

Progress is progress. Even if it looks like two steps forward, one faceplant.

🎯 TL;DR

You don’t need to be a superhero.
You don’t need to carry the world.
You just need to keep going, with humor, with humility, and maybe with a few Git commits that don’t break the build.

So this month, check in with yourself.
And maybe another guy too, because odds are, he's quietly trying to keep it all together while pretending he totally knows what "Kubernetes" means.

You got this.
Now get back to it. Or don’t. Either way, you’re doing better than you think.